A self-solemnization ceremony (or self-uniting marriage) is perfect for engaged couples who are dreaming of a chill wedding day with the least number of strangers involved as possible.
In this guide, we’ll cover the legal requirements for self-solemnization, provide tips for planning your unique ceremony, and offer inspiration to help you craft personalized vows that aren’t being written by an officiant. Say goodbye to tradition, and hello to a wedding that is as extraordinary as your love. Let’s dive in and discover how to say “I do” your way in beautiful Colorado.
Self-solemnization is the act of solemnizing your own marriage without the need for a third-party officiant. So, basically – congrats, you’re the officiant! In Colorado, this means you and your partner have the legal right to perform your own wedding ceremony. This option allows you to legally marry each other without the constraints of traditional wedding customs. Keep in mind, while Colorado does not require witnesses or officiants for self-solemnization, you can still have guests present.
Before you decide if a self-solemnization ceremony is for you, you should understand the legal requirements for marriage in Colorado. While self-solemnization offers freedom and flexibility, there are still a few guidelines you must follow to ensure your marriage is legally recognized.
You and your partner must be at least 18 years old and not closely related by blood or adoption. You both also need to obtain a valid marriage license from a Colorado county clerk’s office. This process requires presenting appropriate identification and paying the required fees. Each county is different, so I recommend Googling *Insert County Here* Marriage License. They should have a website to walk you through everything. Here’s Summit County’s website as an example. It doesn’t matter what county you get your marriage license in, but I always encourage couples to get it where they’re staying to make their lives easier.
Your marriage is legally recognized everywhere even though you’re obtaining a marriage license in Colorado.
Self-solemnization offers a lot of benefits that make it a great option for couples looking to break away from traditional wedding norms. Here are just a few of the advantages of choosing a self-solemnization ceremony in Colorado:
Now that you understand the concept of self-solemnization and the legal requirements, let’s talk about planning your ceremony. It will follow a similar structure to a traditional wedding, but with the added freedom to customize every detail according to your preferences.
Colorado doesn’t require anything special for you to self-solemnize besides signing your marriage license. Your vows can be anything you want them to be. I have couples who don’t like to read out loud or don’t feel like they have the adequate words to string together to let their partner know how they feel. Here are some alternative ideas that count as vows in Colorado:
If you want to write vows, that’s cool, too! Writing your own vows is one of the most beautiful and personal ways to express your love and commitment to your partner. It allows you to truly speak from the heart and create a moment that is unique to your relationship. Your vows don’t have to be a set of promises. Here are some tips to help you craft heartfelt, personalized vows that aren’t cheesy AF:
One of the most beautiful aspects of a self-solemnization ceremony is the opportunity to involve your loved ones in meaningful ways, even if they’re not there physically. Here are some ideas to help you include your family and friends in your special day even if you’re eloping:
After your self-solemnization ceremony, it’s time to celebrate with OR without your loved ones. While traditional receptions often include formalities like dinner and dancing, a self-solemnization reception can seriously be anything you want it to be. Here are some ideas to inspire your post-ceremony festivities. Pro tip: Consider having a brunch wedding so you have all day to do more activities. It’s a move and leaves time for a casual stop at Taco Bell…
Self-solemnization allows you to embrace the freedom and creativity that comes with creating your own traditions without an additional stranger to be hired.
Remember the most important thing about planning your wedding or elopement is to stay true to you. Colorado provides the perfect canvas for your dream wedding, allowing you to say “I do” surrounded by breathtaking landscapes, vibrant cities, and the support of your loved ones. So go ahead, write your own love story, and say “I do” your way in beautiful Colorado.
Looking for more tips on how to plan a wedding or elopement? I have an entire guide of what do to after you get engaged.
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