Can you marry yourself in Colorado? Yes.

Colorado is THEE raddest place to get married, and the easiest. Couples can officiate their own wedding through something called Self Solemnization. Self-Solemnization means you can marry yourself without an officiant or witnesses.

“Okay, Kenzie, but what does this actually mean?”

YOOO, It means you can literally go pick up your marriage license, visit an epic spot, say those kickass vows, sign that license, and turn it back it. BAM – you’re friggin’ married. Bring your fur baby, they can sign your license as a witness. Yes, I’m not kidding. Colorado is amazing, do you need more reason to elope here? You could quite literally go on a hike and come back married.

How to Self Solemnize Your Elopement in Colorado

Self Solemnizing is super simple!

  1. Pick a county to pick up your license from. Denver County is usually busy so choosing a nearby county would be more likely.
  2. Apply for your marriage license within 35 days of your elopement. It’s $30 and it requires both parties social security numbers & form of identification.
  3. Send the license back within 63 days of your elopement.

Benefits to Self-Solemnizing Elopements

I might sound bias, but self solemnization has so many benefits that it outweighs any negatives.

  • No awkward Agenda – Most officiants have a script or a list of things they’ll be saying to “MC” your ceremony. Sometimes they’re religious, sometimes they’re just a little awkward. Sometimes, they just don’t fit you and bae. By cutting out the need for an officiant, your agenda is the only agenda that matters.
  • Your Dog can sign as a Witness – YES! As if Colorado could get any cooler, it’s cool with your fur baby being a bigger part of your elopement day.
  • Endless Epic Adventures – Renting a badass jeep to explore Telluride? Hiking up to the top of a 14er? The adventures are endless because you’re not held back by the lack of finding an officiant who’s not up for that.
  • A Friend can lead the Ceremony – Have a friend or family member that played a huge part in your relationship? Ask them to lead the ceremony! They do not have to get ordained or know any cheesy scripts.
  • Your Ceremony is up to You – You can plan an elopement that lasts only a few minutes or a full hour. You can say your vows out loud or have a silent ceremony with exchanged letter.

What does it look like to self-solemnize?

It can look however you’d like! I know it can seem weird to almost be your own MC but here are some examples of what couples have done.

  • Vows are exchanged, Champagne is popped! (With Leave No Trace in mind of course)
  • Write letters to each other and exchange them at the location
  • If you invite friends or family, create an itinerary for them. Sometimes there are readings or some sweet words by family members.
  • Reading of the vows, epic kiss, champagne toast, and a sweet little picnic.

Self Solemnization is beautiful because it keeps your agenda at the forefront. No one else’s. I help all my couples plan a sweet self solemnizing ceremony.

Self-Solemnization FAQs

Is our marriage legal in all states if we self-solemnize?

YES! As long as the marriage license is from the state that allows self-uniting marriage, you’re legally married.

Can we still have an officiant even though we are self-solemnizing?

Yep! Your officiant doesn’t even have to be ordained to “officiate” your wedding. So there is more room to make your ceremony unique and special to you and bae!

COVID-19 ruined our original plans. We want to self-solemnize now and have a traditional wedding later, is this possible?

Absolutely! You’ll just be legally married already at your traditional wedding celebration so there won’t be a need to sign another marriage license.

Can we have guests at our self-solemnization ceremony?

Yes! This does not affect your self-solemnization whatsoever.

Self Solemnizing is such an empowering way to make the best day of your life everything you want it to be and nothing that you don’t. A memory only you and bae will have, or maybe you share your self-solemnization with a few loved ones. Self Solemnization removes the need for unnecessary, performative, “wedding traditions.”


Take back your wedding day.

Does self-solemnizing sound perfect for you and bae?